Vacation ills - need cheering up - sorry

Hi everyone

I%26#39;m leaving for LV next week for some destressing. I%26#39;m going by myself for the first time. I%26#39;m a single mom who is already feeling guilty for going away without my son. We%26#39;ve been thru a lot of turmoil since last year. I won%26#39;t into it all. He is autistic and bipolar, I couldn%26#39;t give him the help he needs at home. I had to put him in a group home to keep ourselves safe. I have tried everything, but it got very out of control to where he was threatening to kill himself and me. Anyways, I felt I needed to get away to get myself together. Now I am feeling so guilty. I have already cried thinking that I%26#39;m going away and I will miss him dearly, that%26#39;s my heart. My head says that you need to take care of yourself to be there for him. I%26#39;ve had several nervous breakdowns and I can%26#39;t afford any more. I%26#39;m sorry for laying this on everyone, I feel there are many friendly wonderful people here that could maybe cheer me up. If I sound pathetic, I%26#39;m sorry. It%26#39;s just been heck and feel terrible right now. Thanks for listening, or reading at that.

Vacation ills - need cheering up - sorry

don%26#39;t feel guilty - you have taken care of your son the best you can. He is safe and loved, go in peace. Life is hard, you make decisions based on the best you can do at the time.

I%26#39;d encourage you to find a professional who can help you - taking care a family, especially one with extraordinary challenegs, can be overwhelming. A professional will help you.

Enjoy LV - try to relax, squeeeze in a spa treatment if you can.

You and your son will be in our prayers.

Vacation ills - need cheering up - sorry

KSTUDER1971, don%26#39;t feel guilty, sounds like you%26#39;re doing the best you can and you so deserve a break !!

I%26#39;m sure your son will be fine and you%26#39;ll feel much

more relaxed and fit when you return.GO and try to

have a good time!!! and don%26#39;t forget to write a trip report when you get back.Wishing you the best , and good luck !!!!

Thanks, bridgefan. I wish I could get help, I don%26#39;t have any medical. The state won%26#39;t give me any for I had to quit my job back in Dec. when my son was in the hospital then. I%26#39;m looking for a job now, but I feel pathetic to come here and ask for cheering up. My son is my life and my baby. I love him to no end, as he would say ';unlimited.'; I greatly appreciate it, bridgefan. I have my faith which has kept me sane lately. God bless.

Don%26#39;t feel guilty, the group home may be a good experience for him, and a bit of relief for you. Just enjoy your time away, get some rest, and go back refreshed and able to give your son the help he needs :) God Bless your family.

Thank you siu and cynda. I%26#39;m trying not to feel guilty, but it just stinks. The heart says one thing, the head says another. He doesn%26#39;t know I%26#39;m going away, that could send him over the edge. He%26#39;s in a place that is quite far from our home,so he knows I%26#39;ll only able to visit him on the weekend. I%26#39;ll see him this Sunday before I leave, then I plan to see him when I come back next Thursday. He%26#39;ll always be able to call or me call him on my cell. You know, I%26#39;m so proud of him for he is/was so close to graduating from high school in college prep courses. He is so smart, but his disabilities made it hard. He%26#39;s so loving, wonderful, and so amazing. sorry,I%26#39;m just blabbing on. Please excuse me. I just need to blab right now. Much luck and blessings to all. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. All are in my prayers, too.

kstuder

You have no reason to feel guilty. Someone very dear to me has an 18 year old nephew with severe autism-he doesn%26#39;t even speak. I can%26#39;t imagine what it must be like to take care of such a child if you are a single mom.

You had to make a difficult decision-a decision no mother would enjoy making. But he is now with people who know how to take care of him. You did what was best for him- protecting your son from himself! Keep reminding yourself of that: you did what you had to do.

After all the years of taking care of him- you deserve some time to destress and pamper yourself. If you do that you will be in better postion to help him when you return. If you get sick- what good will it do your son?

I will be thinking of you and your son and I will keep you in my prayers.

kstuder,

I wish the best for you and your son. As has already been said, you can%26#39;t take care of him if you aren%26#39;t taking care of yourself. You need this time away for you and your sanity. Take it, without guilt.

Best of luck to you.

Kelly

I can relate. I recently put my handicapped sister in a long term health care facility. She is mentally retarded, has cerebral palsey and elilepsy. I have taken care of here for 19 years. She became ill in January. I kept going to doctors who kept expermenting with various drugs. In Februaury I took her to emergency. She had so many things wrong with her. I could not take care of her. I had her put in a long term care facility. It has taken from February to now for Acess to click in. Medicare should take care of most of the bills, but I know they are coming. When I had my last meeting with the Acess people I went to Laughlin for a week. It%26#39;s the poor person%26#39;s Vegas. Not as fun, but I deserved to go. I had a great time, didn%26#39;t win much. Ate everything in sight. Just hung out and enjoyed myself. I deserved it. You deserve it. It will make you feel like a person again. Leave the guilt behind for a few days. it will be there when you get back. Have fun.

ks,

Believe me, I understand exactly what you go through with an autisic child. I have a four year old autistic son. Since my son was born I started going to Vegas more often to get some fun and stress free time. It is so nice to be able to breathe easy and not to be on alert 24/7.

Enjoy your trip, take time for yourself and relax...YOU DESERVE IT!

ks,

You deserve a break, enjoy yourself, he will be just fine in care! If you don%26#39;t recharge yourself, not only will you need to look after your son, but someone will have to look after you %26amp; that is not what you or he needs.

Go with what your head says %26amp; just relax!!! %26amp; no your not being pathetic, you have to let it out somehow.

Look after yourself %26amp; keep safe.